Often healing chooses us. That may sound like a strange thing to say, yet in my own experience and in the observation of life, there is a moment when we realise the way we feel, our experiences of self, relationships, others and the world, just cannot continue for us the way it is.
That moment, is then followed by many squeezes and tugs to seek the change we are being called to.
The call to heal, will not be new news. It will have been something we have been aware of mentally or felt and attempted to bury under the rocks of reasons why not.
Until these rocks are tumbling and we feel we no longer have solid footing to hold ourselves up anymore.
We come to the understanding that our life experiences will not change until we take the brave steps to change how we are feeling.
Yes, we do have to make the choice to heal, by following up with action, and yes, we can sit on this too,but the call will remain, no matter how much we attempt to disguise it or ignore it.
Identifying the need to heal.
Life will pretty much show us our need to heal.
What we have attempted to hide, run from or deal with another day, will keep showing up. There may be days or weeks, where we can kid ourselves that actually all is well, but what is asking to be healed, will come round again. Maybe in a different form but the underlying call for healing will be the same.
We will notice this in:
repetitive relationship patterns,
repetitive health issues,
repetitive self sabotaging
repetitive slumps into shame, depression, anger, withdrawal, frustration, hopelessness.
It may show up in our levels of happiness and motivation.
Our sexuality.
Our desires for intimacy, touch, closeness.
Common fears and concerns.
Attending to any healing, can trigger fears and concerns.
Often these fears are part of what is asking for transformation.
We may fear we will be judged, rejected, not understood.
We may minimise our pain.
We may feel shame becomes overwhelming.
We may talk ourselves into the belief we cannot be healed or it will take years and we don’t have time.
We may fear we will lose relationships we value.
We may not feel worthy enough to spend time and money and care on ourselves.
We may fear if we loosen one rock, the whole mountain will come crumbling down.
Our fears and concerns, if we can step back and take a breath, are what we have put in place as self preservation and protection. But what once kept us safe, begins to keep us small. To stay in the painful places we feel ourselves to be is far more painful than letting them go.
When we take the steps to heal our experiences of our self, others, and the world around us, our life experiences become vaster, richer and fulfilling.
